I can't believe how many women are like, "Oh, I like that guy but he's not _______ so I don't want to date him." Just fuck him, and don't even worry about dating. Don't go home with anyone who gives you a bad vibe. If the prospect of catching HPV/Herpes is something that freaks you out beyond all reason, you shouldn't be having casual sex. I find having multiple fuck buddies keeps me from getting too attached to any of them. I'm not saying you can't ever make dinner for your fuck buddy, but WAIT until you have an established dynamic so you're not sending the wrong signal. Kissing, sleepovers, cuddling -- these are controversial FWB activities that must be considered on a case by case basis. Try every freaky, dirty thing you've ever wanted to try, and enjoy it. Call out double standards and sex-negative attitudes as bullshit. Unlike women, a lot of straight dudes FANTASIZE about being "used" for sex, so you don't have to feel bad about this. Putting your sexual eggs in one emotionally unavailable basket is a recipe for neediness and insecurity, and finding multiple sex partners as a straight woman is usually not that difficult. Don't expect your trick to call you the day after you hook up/drive you to the hospital/remember your birthday. I know a dude who goes to elaborate lengths to wine and dine women when all he really wants is to get laid. Honest, non-committal affection is not the same as inappropriately intense false intimacy. If he is having phone sex with another girlfriend, and X, or a fuckbuddy I would be livid. there was a time in our relationship that he was secretly corresponding with his X.And if he used MY credit card account to do this, he would be on the street sop fast his head would spin. The worst thing about it was that he denied it, lied lied lied.The worst thing about it was that he denied it, lied lied lied.Had he told me, I would not have been nearly as upset. is he paying a service for this, or is he calling someone he knows?
The perfect FWB is a sexy person who is not boyfriend material. Text their name and license plate number to a friend, set up a safe call, let your trick KNOW you have a safe call. That said, be upfront if you know you've got an STI, get the vaccine and regular pap smears, and don't fuck anyone who is clearly having an outbreak of something. And don't be a dumbass -- if you know your FWB is going to be at a party with someone else, bring your own date so you don't feel like a super awkward third wheel. Take a tip from Suze Orman: diversify your cock portfolio. Anyone who judges you for having fun is probably jealous because you're getting laid way more often than they are.
It's not their job to act like a boyfriend, so don't expect them to. I feel like seeing someone once every 2-3 weeks is about the ideal interval to maintain appropriate boundaries. He'll take a lady out to a movie and a fancy meal, then wait until AFTER sex to blurt out, "You know this is casual, right?
The trade off is you have no obligation to answer their call at 3 a.m./perform sex acts you're not into/lend them . This is why it's good to have several fuckbuddies -- if one goes AWOL for a while, you have a back up or three.
It'll have you questioning a few wild nights in your early twenties, or make you feel completely better about it.
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